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Familial wealth and prominence does not necessarily assure a sense of independence, well-being or inner joy . . . as Miguel discovered in his early 30’s after coming out of yet another failed relationship where his ex was distrustful, clingy, obsessive and not in love with him, or he her. Miguel was born and raised in Mexico and catered to by housekeepers, valets, cooks, gardeners and women who ran the house while the men went out to work. He had also never been without a woman taking care of his needs, whether she was his mother, sisters, girlfriends or wives (one at a time) and had been a willing victim of gender role bias and separation all his life.

Miguel moved to California in his late teens, early twenties and currently holds a much sought after position in the banking world. When he contacted me, he had just moved into a new apartment in the financial district in San Francisco and knew he wanted some sort of change in his life but he didn’t know what or how. So he invited me out to San Francisco for 4 days to help him find greater happiness and redesign the way he was living his life.

My client had been so consumed by career and relationships that he had put himself and his own interests and passions on the back burner and didn’t know who he was any more. He decided it was a good idea to pause before entering his next relationship, to develop a sense of Self and learn how to be happy with or without a woman in his life. So, I inspired Miguel to get in touch with a part of himself he had never truly known – his feminine side – so he could bring his yin/yang energy into balance and find inner peace in order to move away from all co-dependent relationships now and in the future.

Miguel had the absolute greatest time rediscovering himself during our 4 day session! He wanted to decorate his new apartment in a way that said, “THIS IS ME!!” so we went shopping and I taught him how to be selective and choose items through his senses by the way things made him feel.

This approach was totally new and bizarre to him, but he loved it, and started taking down some of his emotional barriers and getting in touch with his feelings for the first time. Previously a lamp was a lamp and a rug was just a rug that he gave either a saleswoman or his girlfriend money to pick out for him, and if there was a designer name or a hefty price tag attached to it, all the better. But with this new way of bringing his Self into the experience he became very excited and particular about filling his personal space in a way he never imagined – like a child being let loose in a humongous toy store and being told for the first time ever to “Go have fun!”

Now, not just any art could hang on his wall; Miguel decided to reignite his passion for painting and create his own masterpieces to adorn his sacred space. So off to the art store we went. We all know that it’s not enough to buy the supplies for something we intend to do, so I squeezed some paints onto his palette and gave him a few art lessons, so he could feel what it was like to “get his hands wet”, rather than just let the idea of creating art remain a mental concept.

It didn’t end there. We did wine tasting in Napa Valley, took photos of the sunset on the Pacific coast, something he used to love doing. We went to the opera, the beach, artist run galleries and cool boutiques, and a fortune teller. And, he signed up for a yoga class and the gym.

The time spent together wasn’t just idle play; I helped Miguel identify his core values, create a clear vision of what he wanted in his next relationship, recognize his feelings of need and loneliness as indicators that it’s time to do more inner work, not time to enter another relationship. He learned how to say “no” and walk away when the red flags started flying before committing himself to a woman on the grounds of superficiality. He also defined his short and long term personal, career and life purpose goals and began taking action on them while I was there.

Miguel just needed someone to nudge him out of his stuck zone and in the right direction, bounce ideas off of, feel safe confiding in; someone to help him give himself permission to have fun in life, explore, step outside his comfort zone and grow as an independent, self-sufficient man. When I boarded the plane home 4 days later, he was well into an exciting new chapter of his self-created life, and loving every minute of getting to know himself again.

Anne loves to swim, and at age 65 she goes to the pool several times a week, but she’s terrified of putting her head under water. In fact, she told me with great shame and embarrassment that she won’t even get her head wet in the shower, and has an irrational fear of washing her hair. With a little help, my client was able to recall the forgotten traumatic memory residing below the surface of her fear and put the past behind her once and for all.

When Anne was 7 or 8 years old her aunt Sadie took her and several of her cousins on a picnic down by the stream. Anne received permission to swim in the stream under the watchful gaze of her aunt, but that watchful gaze was distracted by the other kids, Anne was temporarily forgotten, got into deep water with current and nearly drowned. She remembered struggling to stay afloat, calling for help but nobody coming to her rescue; then going under.

Sadie saved her niece in the nick of time by grabbing her hair and dragging her out of the water, but Anne’s mother shrugged the incident off as no big deal, and was ignorant of the extent to which Anne was traumatized. To make matters worse, when Anne’s mother regularly washed her daughter’s hair in the sink she carelessly and impatiently covered her face in water, ignoring any protest shrieks from Anne, thinking her daughter was just being a defiant, difficult child.

Each time she got her hair washed as a child, she relived the emotions of that drowning incident over and over again until the terror was buried deep inside and only showed on the outside later in life as being afraid of getting her face wet.

It’s not always painful to recall past experiences; Anne was quite thrilled to uncover the cause of her irrational fear. The awareness gave her the power to separate the past from the present and take gradual, forward moving steps towards feeling safe getting her face wet, washing her hair, showering, and putting her head in water again.

Rick just wanted to know about love. It was something that eluded him his whole life because he was a success-driven career man who had never taken time to get to know himself or his family. So we met in NYC for 4 days and talked about love, relationships, personal life missions and higher purpose, and the importance of nurturing children in order for them to develop into responsible, healthy, loving adults – his own children.

We also discussed intuition, insight, psychic abilities and the paranormal because Rick has the ability to “see” things other people don’t see and it scared and confused him. He didn’t understand it and had no one “safe” or knowledgeable to confide in.

At the end of our 4 days together, Rick felt inspired, uplifted and encouraged to make new connections with his children because he had a better sense of the dynamics at play in his relationships and an understanding of how to become a bigger part of their lives in a quality way. He also had a better understanding of “seen” and “unseen” energies; and he knew what unconditional love (the only kind of love there is) is all about.

Toby, age 60, lives in the U.K., is married, successfully runs several of his own businesses and is an accomplished glass artist; but his life, businesses and all his relationships were falling apart when he came to me.

He had become estranged from his children, siblings, co-workers, friends and his relationships with his wife was failing miserably. She had deeper intimacy and more open communication with her male and female friends and preferred spending as much time as possible away from home.

“I hate what I’ve become; passive like my father! I want to change my behavior but I don’t know why I’m acting this way or how to stop it,” Toby confided to me as he collapsed on a chair with his head in his hands and on the brink of tears.

Toby said he had a “black box of secrets” that he was afraid to open without help. He had buried these “dark secrets” and the memory of them deep inside and threw away the key when he was an adolescent. Fifty years later as a grown man, it was still very scary to open that “black box”, but with non-judgemental support and encouragement we opened it together. He recalled the painful memories and experiences and began addressing them one by one.

Physical and sexual abuse had run rampant in my client’s family when he was growing up, involving all 5 siblings, to one degree or another. Toby’s mother, a World War II heroine and a well-known pulp fiction author, beat up on her husband, Toby’s father, and his father allowed himself to be a passive victim. The dynamics at play in this home during childhood had a major traumatic impact on each member of the family. It was emotionally painful, confusing and temporarily traumatic for Toby to remember his history, but when he gained awareness of the reason for his current emotional interactions it gave him tremendous power to understand and change his self-sabotaging behavior and his future destiny.

Toby’s sessions took place in-person and spanned the course of 2 consecutive days. We spent the first day visiting art galleries in Montreal, talking and getting to the core of his concern, cleaning the emotional poison from the wound and replacing it with the confidence to be close to his friends and loved-ones in a kind-hearted, generous and creative manner without passively allowing anyone to walk all over him.

His shifts were amazing. On the second day when we returned to the art galleries, Toby was animated and inspired to open a new chapter in his life and go in an entirely new direction with his art. He also made some sound business decisions that empowered his partner, employees and himself.

But, more importantly, he was excited about life again and eager to return to England and open the channels of communication with his daughters, co-workers, his younger brother and his wife. He had compassion for all his brothers and sisters by realizing that they too must have been suffering in their own private hell all these years.

To understand things on an intellectual level is important, but to truly know in your whole being because you experienced and grew into knowing by triumphing a major challenge, is something else entirely. Paul is a successful M.D. living in the Phily area and actively feeding his creative passion by working on a documentary project in his spare time. He’s intelligent and can carry on an interesting and informed conversation about many topics, but he speaks from head intelligence not through the experiential mastery of personal challenges.

The devastating effects of loneliness have been plaguing Paul for quite some time, he told me during one of our sessions, and “I want a long term relationship with a quality woman”.

Paul has unlimited abundance to offer in service to others and he truly wants to move into his higher purpose and be all he can be for himself, for a woman, and for the betterment of society as a whole. The sincerity of his intent rang true, but Paul has very low self-esteem and an addiction to porn – traits that cause him to radiate an energy that does not match the energy of the kind of woman with whom he wants to spend the rest of his life – “and”, he added, “I feel unworthy of having a relationship with a quality woman”.

One weekend in the Fall, Paul went to Atlantic City with a couple friends to have some fun, R & R, drink, gamble and get some kicks from kinky call girl sex. But when the time came for him and his buddies to meet between the sheets with these women, he called me for help instead because he didn’t want to go through with it. He was finished with the satiation gratification type of life, and was ready to change his patterns.

The deck was definitely stacked against Paul at a time when his hormones were raging, his buddies were egging him on and gorgeous willing women were waiting for him. He didn’t know what to do, so he made an emergency call to me.

I reminded him that he had a choice. In the fight/flight state he was in (which is where satiation addiction of any form will imprison you) he didn’t know he had another choice – LOTS of other choices. So I engaged him in conversation about his many other options, reminded him about his honest desire to be in a loving relationship with a woman, and helped him see that his actions were not matching his heart-felt desires. Paul realized that by pursuing the current and repetitive course of action he was on (whether it be porn or prostitution, that day, next week or next month) he would push his sincere desires further and further away, increasing the void he already felt inside.

A simple conversation focused on his heart-centered intentions and higher ideals was enough to shift his thoughts and his emotions from the need to satisfy his own urges to serving others in a more meaningful way. And, when the moment of desperation had passed, Paul told me that during the time he spent doctoring the needy in Africa, his sexual addiction wasn’t even an issue because he was focused on compassion, caring and giving – a big part of his mission in life.

In those few moments during the phone conversation with Paul, his entire essence changed. I heard and felt his affliction melt away, his confidence and strength increase, and the inner conviction of the truth of his soul resonate through his voice. It was simply amazing to witness this man’s almost instantaneous shift.

Paul chose not to engage in licentious activities with his buddies that weekend, and instead he made a point to socialize and meet some new people in the casino and have fun at the gambling tables (where he didn’t have an addiction). At a critical cross road, Paul turned the page of his old story and reached for something higher. Now Paul carries on interesting and educated conversations, but he speaks from the experiential mastery of personal challenges and inspires other men to make choices that honor their truths and that of those with whom they may become involved.